A Letter to My Daughter - How to Play a Bad Card Well

        I have been looking forward to it for a long time, and finally I can see that beautiful 'picture scroll'. This is an affirmation of your hard work and a tribute to an 18 year old adult! The college entrance examination is not the end point, it is another learning station. From now on, you will leave your hometown and travel far to study. Even if you feel reluctant, you will eventually have to let go. May you remember your original intention, live up to your youth, and become a young and ambitious person with ideals and skills in the new era. Come on, my baby! The vast sea leaps with you, and the sky soars with you.

        Baby:

        You are talented and intelligent. You have always been not only the pearl of our hands, but also my caring little cotton jacket, and our pride. You are proficient in your studies, but unfortunately, after 12 years of studying hard in the last battle, you did not play a good hand. Apart from regret, we dare not have the heart to blame. After all, you have put in all your efforts and played poorly, which is inevitable. In the face of exams, strength and luck are both important, as people often say, "Three minutes is destined, seven minutes depends on hard work. Although the results are somewhat unsatisfactory, you are already very good. It is impossible to have a smooth journey through life. Let's consider it as God's attachment to you, and leave you to stay on the beautiful Kangan Line for a look at the scenery! A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise. Take this deficiency as a spur, use it as an opportunity to cheer up and forge ahead before starting again.

        You will travel far and pursue your life dreams. The opportunities for face-to-face communication are gradually decreasing, and Dad has too many encouraging words to say to you:

                1. In terms of learning

        Everyone yearns for a better future, what we pursue and what we will do in the future, depending on how many skills you have learned and how many certificates you have obtained. By laying the groundwork for future work in advance, one can have the autonomy and voice of choice in the future. After all, without accumulating a few steps, one cannot reach a thousand miles without sweating. How can one achieve success? When studying, one cannot endure the hardships of reading, but in the future, one must endure the hardships of life. Don't waste your college time. No matter what major you major in, as long as you are proficient and proficient in it, and enter society after graduation, you will have the opportunity to use your divine pen to draw a grand blueprint. Alternatively, you can choose other majors based on your interests or career plans to lay a solid foundation for the workplace in advance.

        2. In daily life

        A thousand days at home are good, but going out is difficult. We are separated by countless mountains and rivers, and it is difficult to arrive by your side in a timely manner in case of unexpected situations. Therefore, it is particularly important to establish good relationships with classmates and roommates to facilitate mutual support and care. Remember to travel together when you go out. When choosing a means of transportation, take care to write down the license plate number. Don't take Illegal taxi operation. In terms of daily expenses, although parents cannot provide a luxurious life, it is definitely no problem for you to have enough to eat, so there is no need to worry about it.

        3. Emotionally

        It is a timeless law that men should marry when they are young, and women should marry when they are young. Dad is not a conservative person, but it is recommended that you do not engage in excessive behavior in your freshman and sophomore years. It is possible to do so in the next two years without affecting your life goals. The most important thing is to pay more attention to yourself, not to be blinded by a momentary obsession.

        4. In terms of interpersonal communication

        School is a melting pot, and everyone comes from all over the world. Your carefree personality is both a strength and a weakness. Sometimes we can't help but be too strong, emotionally fluctuating, and speaking a bit forcefully, which makes us feel overwhelmed with anger. But in our eyes, you are just a child, parents can tolerate everything, but outsiders are not. In addition, everything has two sides, and when viewing events, one should analyze and evaluate them from a balanced and objective perspective. In the future, you will inevitably encounter difficult things. You should learn to face them and be good at thinking, dare to criticize and self criticize, and not be influenced by vanity.

        In the future, as knowledge continues to accumulate, age increases, and life experiences become more diverse, you will gradually mature and handle things with ease. At the same time, we also hope that you can try your best to change your shortcomings, don't panic when things happen, and learn to think before and after when interacting or talking with others. Anyone who can achieve greatness speaks calmly, on the contrary, those who shout and shout are often very ordinary. May you become a talented and gentle lady. In your free time, you may as well run to the library or read books on psychology to improve your self-cultivation.

        5. Regarding self-discipline

        Compared to high school, there is no direct supervision from teachers in university. If there is not enough self-discipline, it is easy to be lazy, which is also my biggest concern. Self discipline is the prerequisite and foundation for a person's career and academic success. Self discipline during school is for better learning. For example, cultivate a good lifestyle, even on weekends; It should be appropriate to stop addiction to mobile phones, computers, games, etc; Exercise appropriately every day; Dress neatly and appropriately, not only to comfort oneself, but also to earn the respect of others; Timely arrange activities such as making friends, entertainment, and tourism; Actively participate in club activities and strive to become a member of the student union; In addition, perseverance is the key to learning. Avoid fishing for three days and drying the net for two days.

        6. About setbacks

        The darkness of this society and the sinister nature of human nature are unimaginable. With the increasing pressure of work and life, the more desires and confusion there will be in the future. In addition, people's work and career may not always be smooth, which inevitably makes you feel frustrated and affects your emotions. After leaving your parents, no one can help you solve setbacks, confusion, or desires, you must face them on your own. However, difficulties are not terrifying, as long as your heart is strong enough, you can always find the key to a solution. If you really encounter a difficult problem that cannot be solved, please remember that your parents' phone is turned on 24 hours a day, and you can also go home anytime to discuss with us.

        Looking back on my youth, when my family borrowed money to build a house, there was no more money left. Originally, my grades were not very good, and I chose to drop out of school. At your age, I left my hometown and went with my little uncle to work in Huizhou. In order to earn more money to support my family, I didn't go to the factory to work because the factory's assembly line salary is only RMB 9 per day, and although the construction site is tired, dirty, and bitter, I can get RMB 22 per day. At that time, the mechanization of the construction site was extremely low, relying solely on manual labor. The job responsibilities included rolling steel bars, throwing bricks, and mixing mud. It was common for the sole of the shoes to be pierced by iron nails, and every time the concrete floor was poured, the gravel, which was the size of an egg, was shoveled day and night. When tired, he falls on the ground, and when thirsty, he turns on the faucet. At the end of the day, the hands and legs are covered in calluses and blisters. Sometimes, pushing the mixed concrete, a cart weighs around 200 pounds, bumping along the muddy and slippery path. Every step is extremely difficult, and each cart has to use up its strength. Pushing one cart also lasts day and night; In addition, the summer in Guangdong is not only hot, but also extremely stuffy, combined with this high-intensity physical labor, it is exhausting. At that time, I had to carry cement, each bag was 50KG, and my weight was only 48KG, lighter than cement. Once, accidentally, he dodged to his waist and fell ill. He didn't dare to tell his brother-in-law, so he had to sneak to the bathroom, stretch out his waist, bite his teeth, and then continue working. There is no turning back arrow when starting work. With that hard working and steel like will, this kind of work lasted for six months. Looking back now, I still feel a thousand emotions!

        My father is well aware of his many shortcomings, but I have been striving to be a competent father. There are too many words to advise, just short words and long love. I hope you can feel our heartfelt blessings and earnest hope. May your future be bright and promising, my dear!

        Love your dad

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