05.2021 Story
Son's change
Oriental Petrochemical (Shanghai) Corporation / Yang Fenghua
My son was brought up by his parents in law when he was young. Before the age of 3, his mother couldn't accompany him because of her work. I was addicted to computer games and failed to establish his rules and habits, which led him to indulge in the pampering of his elders and lack a sense of responsibility. Now he is 13 years old. After weighing it over and over again, he decided to let the two old men go back to their hometown and enjoy a free pastoral life. He also asked his son to cultivate the spirit of independence and self-discipline.
On the first night of his parents in law's return home, his son's reaction was very fierce. After taking a bath and going to bed, he immediately cried in a quilt, crying and shouting: "Miss grandma!" By the next day, he didn't know whether he was adaptable or hiding his missing in his heart. He no longer cried. It seemed that he had nothing to do with it. My wife and I were very worried about his mental state. Fortunately, there was no big problem. My wife also tried to let him and his grandparents chat through video in the evening.
In the past, when my son ate, he only ate a little at a time, just like a kitten, and mainly snacks, supplemented by rice. So his diet, height, growth and development have always been our worries. After my parents in law returned to their hometown, my wife studied new dishes on various food apps every day, hoping to give my son a better eating experience. My son quickly adapted to and accepted our wishes. His eating habits changed greatly. We no longer need to urge him to eat snacks. We are willing to drink fresh juice. We are very pleased to see his progress!
In the following period of time, my son suddenly grew up and made continuous progress in all aspects. My wife and I always work night shifts. The school is far away from home. Going to school is a big problem. My son suggested that I go to school by bike. He also took me to find a bicycle shop in the streets and finally bought a bicycle on the Internet. Father and son were very excited when they were installing the bike together. However, there was a slash in front of the bike, which was not very convenient. On the first day when I went to school by bike, although I had repeatedly warned about safety issues, I was still not at ease. I quietly followed behind all the way. Fortunately, my son arrived at school without any danger. After that, he went up and down every day to learn to ride by himself, rain or shine.
Not only that, in the past, my son always left behind when he packed his schoolbag. Now, before he started every day, his watch, red scarf and rice bowl are all packed up properly. He no longer needs to call someone to send things to school. On weekends and evenings when I come home from school, I will take the initiative to share the housework, such as washing dishes, taking out the garbage, taking express delivery, etc., and even help my mother fry a plate of fried rice with eggs before she comes back from the night shift. In learning attitude, he is full of progress, different from last semester is always 70, 80 points, now English dictation for a week is full!
With the departure of our parents in law and the change of our son, we have to think deeply that maybe the absence of the old man is "weaning" to some extent for my wife and I. since then, we have to bear all the housework by ourselves and pay more attention and love to our son; For his son, it is an opportunity for him to grow up. He has his own study and bed, so he can concentrate on his study and get used to being alone.
I believe many families are just like my family. Children are like flowers in the greenhouse. Grandparents, grandparents, parents, six people are all in the sky. They are afraid of melting in their mouths and falling in their palms. They are so spoiled that they can't take care of themselves and can't stand a little frustration. When they grow up, they become "giant babies"; In fact, sometimes growth is just a moment, and children need an opportunity to grow themselves.
As an old saying goes: Heaven will bring great responsibility to this person. First of all, we must work hard, work hard, starve his body and skin, empty his body, and do something to disturb his behavior. A lot of things should be let go bit by bit when the child can, give him the space and conditions to grow up. Fortunately, it's not too late now. As long as we continue to exercise, over time, we believe that he can become more and more excellent, more and more independent, kind and considerate, and become a little man with ideals, responsibilities and responsibilities!
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On the first night of his parents in law's return home, his son's reaction was very fierce. After taking a bath and going to bed, he immediately cried in a quilt, crying and shouting: "Miss grandma!" By the next day, he didn't know whether he was adaptable or hiding his missing in his heart. He no longer cried. It seemed that he had nothing to do with it. My wife and I were very worried about his mental state. Fortunately, there was no big problem. My wife also tried to let him and his grandparents chat through video in the evening.
In the past, when my son ate, he only ate a little at a time, just like a kitten, and mainly snacks, supplemented by rice. So his diet, height, growth and development have always been our worries. After my parents in law returned to their hometown, my wife studied new dishes on various food apps every day, hoping to give my son a better eating experience. My son quickly adapted to and accepted our wishes. His eating habits changed greatly. We no longer need to urge him to eat snacks. We are willing to drink fresh juice. We are very pleased to see his progress!
In the following period of time, my son suddenly grew up and made continuous progress in all aspects. My wife and I always work night shifts. The school is far away from home. Going to school is a big problem. My son suggested that I go to school by bike. He also took me to find a bicycle shop in the streets and finally bought a bicycle on the Internet. Father and son were very excited when they were installing the bike together. However, there was a slash in front of the bike, which was not very convenient. On the first day when I went to school by bike, although I had repeatedly warned about safety issues, I was still not at ease. I quietly followed behind all the way. Fortunately, my son arrived at school without any danger. After that, he went up and down every day to learn to ride by himself, rain or shine.
Not only that, in the past, my son always left behind when he packed his schoolbag. Now, before he started every day, his watch, red scarf and rice bowl are all packed up properly. He no longer needs to call someone to send things to school. On weekends and evenings when I come home from school, I will take the initiative to share the housework, such as washing dishes, taking out the garbage, taking express delivery, etc., and even help my mother fry a plate of fried rice with eggs before she comes back from the night shift. In learning attitude, he is full of progress, different from last semester is always 70, 80 points, now English dictation for a week is full!
With the departure of our parents in law and the change of our son, we have to think deeply that maybe the absence of the old man is "weaning" to some extent for my wife and I. since then, we have to bear all the housework by ourselves and pay more attention and love to our son; For his son, it is an opportunity for him to grow up. He has his own study and bed, so he can concentrate on his study and get used to being alone.
I believe many families are just like my family. Children are like flowers in the greenhouse. Grandparents, grandparents, parents, six people are all in the sky. They are afraid of melting in their mouths and falling in their palms. They are so spoiled that they can't take care of themselves and can't stand a little frustration. When they grow up, they become "giant babies"; In fact, sometimes growth is just a moment, and children need an opportunity to grow themselves.
As an old saying goes: Heaven will bring great responsibility to this person. First of all, we must work hard, work hard, starve his body and skin, empty his body, and do something to disturb his behavior. A lot of things should be let go bit by bit when the child can, give him the space and conditions to grow up. Fortunately, it's not too late now. As long as we continue to exercise, over time, we believe that he can become more and more excellent, more and more independent, kind and considerate, and become a little man with ideals, responsibilities and responsibilities!
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