Upgrade your self-control

        "Self-control" is a psychology. Good self-control can make life free from chaos and make you feel more comfortable. This article will share with you how to improve your self-control and have a more autonomous life.

        Why is it out of control

        Affected by the epidemic during this period, many people have adopted remote office, remote teaching, or remote learning, etc., and the time spent at home has increased significantly. However, many people have had this experience: after class ( After class), I originally needed to submit the uploading homework (report), but I wanted to swipe my phone for a while and relax before doing it, but in the end I put it off until the evening, and it might even be too late to complete it that day, so I can only rewrite it tomorrow.

        Unable to execute according to the established schedule, guilt and anxiety are inevitable in my heart. Some people think that the guilt that comes with guilt increases a sense of responsibility and allows one to get out of a state of being out of control. : "Surprisingly, it is not guilt but self-forgiveness that enhances the sense of responsibility." People misunderstand that it is external entertainment or events that prevent them from accomplishing what they want to do. However, sometimes the loss of control is not an external factor, but an internal psychological factor. illusion caused by activity.

        To avoid getting out of control, you can do this

        1. Breathe

        First of all, you need to focus your mind, just like getting your schoolbag or briefcase ready before going to class or going to work. By adjusting the breathing (inhale for 4 seconds, pause for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, pause for 4 seconds, complete a cycle of about 16 seconds, and so on for about 1-2 minutes), let the rhythm of the emotions slow down and restore the inner peace .

        2. Meditation

        Try to enter a state of meditation, where you can continue to focus on breathing, think about nothing, or ask yourself: Where did you do well today? Which parts can be done better? How to do?

        3. Keep blood sugar stable

        When the blood sugar rises, you will feel tired or out of control. Therefore, it is recommended that you eat less sweets and replace them with low-glycemic nuts or natural foods. As Kelly McGonigal said in Self-Control, "When you know what elicits desire, keep it out of sight and it won't appeal to you anymore." Out of sight, in places that are not easy to reach, reduce the desire to stimulate cravings, and you can avoid letting yourself out of control.

        4. Prioritize the important things

        Because self-control, like muscle, has its limits, sometimes it's not really out of control, but we're tired, so Kelly McGonigal said, "If you feel like you don't have the time and energy to deal with 'I want to 』, then schedule it to do it when your willpower is strongest."

        Just like children always want to rest during the holidays and start their homework in the evening after the holidays, but the results are often not good; for adults, why not? After a whole day, no matter if you are resting or playing, at night, your physical and mental conditions are already exhausted, and your concentration will naturally be unable to concentrate. Therefore, you should prioritize the execution of important things when you are in the best condition.

        Nowadays, entertainment information is readily available, and it is more difficult than ever to control self-control. Coupled with the pressure of life and work, everyone needs to gain emotional freedom and relief. However, disordered life and work will make people even more unhappy. . That's why Joko Willink once said in the book "Self-discipline is freedom": "The only way to be free is to be free." I recommend that you use the above four steps to regain control of your life!

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